Our ethical charter
(in english below)
At La Voie du Plaisir, mindfulness and quality are our priorities-in our training courses, seminars and events. We approach our work holistically, with the intention not only of imparting technical, energetic or anatomical knowledge, but also of guiding people in their personal development, body awareness and path towards conscious intimacy and embodied sexuality. Our inner posture plays a central role in this process.
With this Code of Ethics, we aim to share our values and guiding principles in a transparent, practical and comprehensible way with all those who learn, grow and experience with us.
Our understanding of roles
We are aware that as space facilitators, we carry a particular responsibility, and that our role can create a power dynamic. We regularly question our posture, and communicate it transparently to participants or those we massage. We aspire to embody this role with responsibility-without ever using it as a lever to cross boundaries or influence others. Integrity and respect are essential to us. Our personal needs take second place to our responsibility to participants. This responsibility is taken seriously and clearly distinguished from any private or personal intentions.
Our limits as space facilitators
The spaces we offer, either individually or in groups, are in no way intended to replace recognized professional therapeutic guidance. Given the diversity of life experiences and realities, we cannot assess the extent to which our proposals may have a therapeutic impact. If in doubt, we advise you to consult an external therapist before taking part in our offers.
We are also human beings, with our own history and our own limits. We reserve the right to set limits if we feel that a physical, emotional or mental boundary has been crossed.
Our ongoing evolution
We are committed to ongoing training, and see ourselves as constantly evolving in the field of human relations. In addition to professional development through seminars and internships, we remain open to feedback from our customers in order to create even more conscious and reassuring spaces. Please send any feedback or suggestions to: info@lavoieduplaisir.com
Personal liability
We create a framework in which participants can recognize, respect and express their own limits. We actively guide them-for example, through exercises to learn how to express a “no” or a need clearly and consciously. We support each person’s freedom to choose whether or not to participate in a practice. A “no” is welcomed with gratitude, as it ensures that a “yes” is fully assumed, creating an authentic and supportive framework. We cannot-and do not wish to-take responsibility for setting limits on behalf of participants, as this would be tantamount to taking away their power of decision and self-determination.
Trauma sensitivity & consent culture
We welcome participants from a wide variety of backgrounds and experiences. Some may have gone through experiences marked by emotional wounds, or relational, physical or sexual traumas. Others may feel fear, shame or ambivalence about intimacy, contact or the expression of pleasure.
That’s why our approach is trauma-sensitive:
☉ We recognize that the body retains the memory of past experiences, including moments when consent was not fully respected.
☉ We honor each person’s ability to feel, set and evolve their limits, at their own pace.
☉ We are careful never to force, push or minimize what is experienced.
☉ We offer tools to identify what is a real yes, a real no, a maybe, or an “I don’t know yet”.
In concrete terms, this means:
→ Clear, caring communication at every stage of the process.
→ Rituals of consent in touch or connection practices.
→ Spaces to name what is alive: emotions, sensations, hesitations, needs.
→ Present but non-intrusive support, in the more sensitive or triggering processes-within the limits of our skills as practitioners, and with the possibility of referring to other resources if necessary.
We place the sovereignty of each individual’s body and experience at the heart of our approach. You are free to choose, adjust or say no at any time.
Support & follow-up
During or after an event or massage, we remain available, within reason, to answer questions or offer support, as long as it falls within our area of expertise.
Confidentiality & respect
Everything that is shared in our spaces, whether individually or in a group, is treated confidentially. It is essential for us to emphasize that every sharing is welcomed with respect and without judgment.
Non-judgmental
Judgments are a natural part of life. Our human mind seeks to classify situations as dangerous or not in order to protect ourselves – so the automatism of inner judgments is constantly at work. When we say that our spaces – whether at massages, at our events or in our Messenger groups – are judgment-free spaces, we mean that we are careful not to project our own judgments onto the experience of others. In our spaces, all emotions, processes and opinions are welcome – as long as the experience of others is not minimized and everyone feels respected in mutual consent. Our invitation is to reflect on why a particular opinion, experience or action triggers us, and what this reveals about ourselves. As custodians of the space, we remain neutral and intervene where necessary to enable peaceful coexistence between different opinions, ways of living and experiences, whatever they may be. This serves the community by making the space a more protected place for self-expression and self-exploration.
The need to act
Confidentiality is an essential value in our work, but there are exceptional cases in which we may need to take action. If we become aware of serious boundary violations-such as abuse, rape or other acts of violence-particularly when a minor or vulnerable person is at risk, we reserve the right to take appropriate action, including reporting to the relevant authorities. This is not always a legal obligation, but it is a moral and ethical responsibility that we fully assume, in compliance with Belgian law and our commitment to ensuring people’s safety.
Inclusion
We are committed to fostering respectful coexistence, where no one is excluded or discriminated against – whatever their skin color, origin, gender, sexual orientation or identity, sexual practices, disability, language, morphology, age or religion.
We honor the richness of sexual and emotional expression, in all its diversity and authenticity. Everyone is welcomed and celebrated as they are, in their uniqueness and desires.
No direct contact between genitals
In tantric massage, direct contact between the genitalia of the practitioner and the recipient is not part of the practice, even if the recipient expresses a desire to do so. Our priority is to maintain a protected and respectful space, where everyone can explore their body, emotions and sexuality with awareness and clarity.
Peer supervision and intervision
All masseurs working in our center have access to supervision. In addition, each masseur is part of a peer intervision group.
ENG :
At La Voie du Plaisir, mindfulness and quality are our top priorities-in our training programs, seminars, and events. We view our work as holistic, aiming not only to impart technical, energetic, or anatomical knowledge but also to support individuals in their personal development, body awareness, and journey toward mindful intimacy and embodied sexuality. Our own inner attitude plays a central role in this process.
With this code of ethics, we aim to transparently share our values and the principles we live by-concretely and understandably-for all those who learn, grow, and experience with us.
Our Understanding of Roles
We are aware that, as space holders, we bear a special responsibility and that our role can create a power dynamic. We regularly reflect on this role and communicate it transparently to our participants or massage clients. We strive to live our role responsibly-not as a means to cross boundaries or influence others. Integrity and respect are paramount to us. Our personal needs take a backseat to our responsibility for the participants. We take this responsibility seriously and clearly separate it from private concerns or personal intentions.
Our Boundaries as Space Holders
The experiential spaces we offer, both individually and in groups, are not substitutes for professional, official therapy. Given the variety of life realities and stories, we cannot assess how our offerings may be therapeutically beneficial. In such cases, we recommend consulting an external therapist before engaging in one of our offerings.
We, too, are individuals with our own stories and boundaries. We reserve the right to set our own limits when we sense that a physical, emotional, or mental boundary is being crossed.
Our Ongoing Growth
We regularly attend further training and see ourselves as continuously evolving in the field of interpersonal relationships. Thus, in addition to professional growth through seminars and workshops, we remain open to feedback from our customers to create even more mindful and protected spaces. We welcome feedback or suggestions via email at feedback@lavoieduplaisir.com.
Self-Responsibility
We create a framework in which participants can recognize, respect, and express their own boundaries. We actively accompany them-e.g., through exercises on how to clearly and mindfully express a “No” or a need. We support each person in their decision to participate in an exercise or not. A “No” is gladly accepted by us because it ensures that we can rely 100% on a “Yes,” thereby creating an authentic and supportive framework for our participants. We cannot and do not wish to take over the responsibility for setting one’s own boundaries, as that would mean depriving individuals of self-determination over their experiences.
Trauma Sensitivity & Consent
We welcome participants with diverse life paths and personal histories. Some may have experienced emotional, relational, physical, or sexual wounds. Others may feel fear, shame, or ambivalence around intimacy, touch, or the expression of pleasure.
This is why our approach is trauma-sensitive:
☉ We acknowledge that the body carries memories, including moments when consent may not have been fully respected.
☉ We honor each person’s ability to feel, set, and adjust their boundaries, at their own rhythm.
☉ We are committed to never forcing, pushing, or minimizing what is alive in you.
☉ We offer tools to help identify a true yes, a true no, a maybe, or an “I don’t know yet.”
Concretely, this means:
→ Clear and compassionate communication at every step of the process.
→ Consent rituals before any practice involving touch or connection.
→ Spaces to express what’s alive-emotions, sensations, hesitations, needs.
→ Support that is present but non-intrusive, especially during sensitive or triggering processes-within the scope of our skills as practitioners, and with the possibility of referring you to other resources if needed.
We place sovereignty of your body and experience at the heart of our work. You are free, at any time, to choose, adjust, or say no.
Support & Aftercare
During or after an event or massage, we remain available within a reasonable framework for questions or support, provided it falls within our competence.
Confidentiality & Respect
Everything shared in our spaces, whether individually or in groups, is treated confidentially. It is important to us to emphasize that everything shared in our spaces is received with respect and without judgment.
Non-judgment
Judgements are something very natural. Our human minds try to classify situations as dangerous or not in order to protect us-so the automatism of inner judgments are happening constantly. When we claim that our spaces, if in the massage, in our events or MessengerGroups are judgment free spaces, we speak about not putting ones own judgment on the experience of others. In our spaces all emotions, processes and opinions are welcome – as long as the experience of others will not be talked down and everyone in the spaces feels consensually respected. Our invitation is to reflect, why a certain opinion, experience, action is triggering and what it is saying about the one who is triggered. We as the space holders stay neutral and moderate if neseccary, so that there can be a peaceful co-existence of different opinions, way of living, experiences or whatsoever. This serves the community to make it a more protected space for self-expression and self-exploration.
Necessity of Action
While confidentiality is a cornerstone of our work, there are exceptional cases where we may need to act. If we become aware of serious boundary violations-such as abuse, rape, or other violent acts-especially when a minor or vulnerable person is currently at risk, we reserve the right to take appropriate action, which may include informing relevant authorities. This is not a legal obligation in all cases, but a moral and ethical responsibility we take seriously, in alignment with Belgian law and our commitment to safety.
Inclusion
We are committed to fostering a respectful coexistence where no one is excluded or discriminated against-regardless of their skin color, origin, gender, sexual orientation or identity, sexual practices, disability, language, body shape, age, or religion.
We honor the richness of sexual and affective expressions in all their diversity and authenticity. Everyone is welcomed and celebrated as they are, in their uniqueness and desires.
No Genital-to-Genital Acts
In the context of tantric massage, genital-to-genital contact between the giver and the receiver is not part of the practice-even if the receiver would express a desire to explore it. Our priority is to maintain a protected and respectful space where individuals can explore themselves, their emotions, and their sexuality with mindfulness and clarity.
Supervision and Peer Intervision
All massage therapists working in our center have access to supervision. In addition, each of them is part of a peer intervision group.
